I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. What would happen if we gave up jealousy? I’ve been there, hundreds of times or more, and it’s not a great feeling. I honestly HATE feeling jealous because to me that’s admitting I’m not content and that is a very unsettling thing for me. Every day I strive for contentment, and jealousy says “come on. don’t you wish you…..” I don’t know if it’s even POSSIBLE to give up jealousy, but I do think it’s possible to trade it for a different feeling. What if we stopped being jealous and started being INSPIRED?
Now I want you to stop for a second and think about someone you are jealous of? Do you have that person in mind? Ok, now what is it about them that you wish you had? Is it their figure, their wardrobe, their job, their home, their marriage, their kids, their talent, their eternally positive attitude, their vacations, their car, their FILL IN THE BLANK? Do you have that figured out, pinpoint it, write it down, and now let’s get to work.
Ok, let me first say I’m aware you can’t make just ANYTHING you want happen with the snap of a finger. You can’t always have what someone else has. If I wanted a million dollars I can tell you right now I can’t make that money by tomorrow. What I can do though, right now, is change my attitude about it, and it doesn’t cost me one single cent. Jealous of someone’s wardrobe? Look at how they put outfits together, be inspired and go through your closet and put together some outfits that you feel great in. Their home? Look at how they’ve created a space that you love and be inspired. Spend some time tidying up your own space, rearranging furniture, deep cleaning it for a fresh feel, organizing your stuff and creating a space that you love to be in. Their vacations? This one has been a big struggle for me over the years, the funds have just never been their for us to do this, so I’m inspired by people being able to save and vacation and we figured out a way to take our family of 4 to Florida this summer for a few days. Instead of dwelling on the fact that they get to do something that I don’t I decided to be inspired by them and take steps to get to where we wanted to go. I encourage you to brainstorm ideas about how you can go from jealous to inspired and make a positive change in your life from looking at other people’s accomplishments!
The one I struggled with for THE LONGEST time was other women’s figures. I spent so much time looking at other people and being SO JEALOUS of how they looked. A good friend of mine posted the other day about her weight loss journey of dropping 50 pounds, getting healthy and working out. Do you know how people responded to that post? “I’m so jealous.” I then just felt sad, one because I used to be there, and two because I want them to BE INSPIRED by her efforts and believe in themselves enough to know they can do it to.
What an uplifting life we could live if we started taking people’s accomplishments and being inspired by them instead of the secret jealousy that eats at you when someone has something you don’t.